What if your deepest need… is really just your oldest wound trying to get healed? You think you need to be admired. You think you need to be respected. You think you need space, peace, success, certainty. But what if those “needs” are just echoes of something deeper? You were abandoned—so now you crave to be chosen. You were shamed—so now you need constant validation. You were controlled—so now you chase rebellion and call it freedom. You were never affirmed—so now you chase admiration and call

You keep asking God to make it easier. But He’s not trying to make you comfortable. He’s trying to make you capable. You want peace without pressure. Growth without grit. Strength without struggle. But the truth? Ease doesn’t grow you. Pressure does. Fire does. Every unanswered prayer. Every rejection. Every door that slammed in your face— that was training, not torture. He wasn’t trying to take something from you. He was trying to build something in you. See, when everything’s falling apart… an

You used to weigh in on everything. Now she makes decisions without you. She picks the vacation. Chooses the school. Changes the house. All without your input. You think she’s being independent. She’s actually given up. Because every time she asked before— You shrugged. Delayed. Avoided. You trained her to stop depending on you. And now you’re not her partner. You’re just in the room. Step 1: Tell her: “I’ve noticed you stopped asking me about things—I want to change that.” Why? Because it shows